But even if the stars and moon collide,
I never want you back into my life,
You can take your words and all your lies,
Oh oh oh, I really don't care.
-Really don't care, By Demi Lovato ft. Cher Lloyd
The singer probably once deeply loved someone, but that someone hurt her so bad that now the strings inside her have broken and she doesn't want to damage herself any further.
It's very rare that a person changes good attitude for a bad one, at the snap of fingers. It's just that when you love someone, you often tend to overlook their bad side. If that person is rude and cruel to everyone around and not you, you sometimes don't notice it. But in most cases, it's just a matter of time before you receive that rude and cruel attitude and when you do see it, I'm sure you don't like it.
When we don't like it, what do we do? We shun the relationship.
On certain grounds, I believe it's the right thing to do, speculating over whether that person could change or not. If not, then the whole thing is a lost cause and it could never fetch anyone happiness.
Well, a lot could be said about friendship and betrayal and trust and not giving up, which could contradict the above statement. However, don't you think worrying about our own happiness is far more important than the happiness of the person who hurt you?
Movies and novels have entirely romanticized the idea of second chances and forgiveness. I certainly wouldn't disapprove of second chances. Neither would I disapprove of third and fourth and fifth chances (depending on the intensity of the mistake made). But if forgiving and forgetting compromises your personal happiness and self respect, then what's the point?
And now for a Peppermintal piece of advice
Forgive but never forget. Even if you do decide to maintain your relationship with them, keep your guard up, because that person can hurt you again. If they've done it once, they can do it again, even when you least expect it.
It's very rare that a person changes good attitude for a bad one, at the snap of fingers. It's just that when you love someone, you often tend to overlook their bad side. If that person is rude and cruel to everyone around and not you, you sometimes don't notice it. But in most cases, it's just a matter of time before you receive that rude and cruel attitude and when you do see it, I'm sure you don't like it.
When we don't like it, what do we do? We shun the relationship.
On certain grounds, I believe it's the right thing to do, speculating over whether that person could change or not. If not, then the whole thing is a lost cause and it could never fetch anyone happiness.
Well, a lot could be said about friendship and betrayal and trust and not giving up, which could contradict the above statement. However, don't you think worrying about our own happiness is far more important than the happiness of the person who hurt you?
Movies and novels have entirely romanticized the idea of second chances and forgiveness. I certainly wouldn't disapprove of second chances. Neither would I disapprove of third and fourth and fifth chances (depending on the intensity of the mistake made). But if forgiving and forgetting compromises your personal happiness and self respect, then what's the point?
And now for a Peppermintal piece of advice
Forgive but never forget. Even if you do decide to maintain your relationship with them, keep your guard up, because that person can hurt you again. If they've done it once, they can do it again, even when you least expect it.
